As parents we should want the best for our children. How can we leave our children better off?
Living a simple life is something we should teach our children as well.
We should try and give them the best head start we can and teach them about the mistakes we made so they do not do the same. Remember your job is to be their parent not their friend. Being the parent is a lot harder than being the friend, especially to teenagers. I have personally dealt with one parent being the friend and I was left to be the parent. If you and the other parent are separated this is extremely difficult. One parents house has structure and rules and the other is do whatever you want. For years I was trying to co-parent with my teens mother. I found out going through his phone she was being a friend and a counter parent. This makes times when extreme decisions must be made exceedingly difficult. I found messages where he is in another room at midnight on a school night asking for her to bring him her bowl to hit. Her mother which was my son’s grandmother buying edibles, videos of her in the back seat letting him drive recklessly at night at the age of 14. He was flunking out of school when staying with her and passing at a time he stayed with me for 7 months straight. As you can imagine getting a kid on the right path with divided parents, and one being a friend not a parent is extremely difficult. This dramatically impacts the kids. Our job is to be their parents not their friend. Parenting is not always easy and fun, at times the kids may not like you. During this situation for me my son did not want to be around me because I found his weed and what was going on and was putting a stop to it. Where would he gravitate? To the friend who is supposed to be his parent. To him I am the worse dad in the world right now, but he will understand later in life. A loving and disciplining parent is what children need from their parents, not friends.
Start them an investment account when they are born or as soon as possible. Writing this I am 38 years old. If my parents would have bought me 1,000 dollars of Microsoft stock it would be worth over a million. If I had 5,000 invested, it would be over ten million. Compound interest is a beautiful thing. Pick something like E-Trade open a custodial account for them. Find some type of All Star Mutual Fund and put in ten dollars a week or whatever you can. Over time this will add up to be better than nothing. Think about all the toys your parents bought and how many of those you still have. I can tell you I would be thanking my parents now if instead of buying me toys they invested and put that money up $10 and $20 here and there adds up. Bigger sums added on birthdays and Christmas. Spend more time with them, less money on toys and start them an investment account early.
Leave them with their memories. Best time in a good relationship with him that will leave them with memories but also photos send to them. Start them an email account and start emailing them pictures like an online photo album form and give them the password when they turn 18.
We all say I wish I knew then what I know now. Let us make sure our kids know what we wish we did. Sometimes they do not want to hear it or listen so find a way for them to take it in. For instance, I read a book at the age of 38 called the Richest Man in Babylon which I recommend anybody to read, and I wish I would have read it at an early age. Knowing I need to motivate my son to take that in I explain to him how much I love the book and that I would give him $100 if he read it and wrote me a book report and details on each chapter of the book. He is 14 years old which is a great age to start taking that in.
Explain to them how important health is and you only have one body no returns. Start them in physical activities young and give them the knowledge of how to exercise if you do not have it, you should learn as well but teach them.
Let us raise well rounded kids, that is our job. Give them a little head start going into this vicious world. You could raise a child that ends up in prison or worse, the president of the United States, a real-estate Mogul, a pastor of a church, someone who values lives and authority or someone who does not. There is that possibility that you do all the right things, and they still end up in a mess. At least you have done your best.
From King David, and a Biblical message to raise Children by.
I go the way of all the earth be thou strong therefore, and shew thyself a man; And keep the charge of the LORD thy God, to walk in his ways, to keep his statutes, and his commandments, and his judgments, and his testimonies, as it is written in the law of Moses, that thou mayest prosper in all that thou doest, and whithersoever thou turnest thyself:
1 Kings 2:2-3
Only be thou strong and very courageous, that thou mayest observe to do according to all the law, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest prosper whithersoever thou goest this book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.
Joshua 1:7-9 KJV
Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
38 This is the first and great commandment.
39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.
40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
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